When I first made my decision to have weight-loss surgery, I was bound and determined that I would keep the choice to myself. Having struggled with my weight almost my entire adult life, I saw no reason to open myself up to criticism or debate on the subject. It's my fat; I'm the one suffering because of it; it's my decision to make, and no one else's.
Since then (gosh, a whole two months ago), I've opened up to my mom and my sister, both of whom have been very supportive. They may have their doubts, but they've kept them to themselves. I'm sure if I asked "are you worried about my WLS" or "do you wish I would just go on a diet", they'd open up about it, buuuuuut why would I do that? ;)
I'm pretty sure that I know more than two people who've chosen weight-loss surgery, but they've opted not to share that knowledge, even when others ask them what their secret is for losing so much weight. They dodge with "well, I'm eating better these days," which would be 100% true after WLS, no doubt!
I don't know yet what I will say when my co-workers ask me. There are those who I know would be sincerely happy for me. Others might be curious and possibly considering surgery for themselves--and perhaps my sharing would be helpful to them. Then there are those who don't really care; they're just eager for gossip fodder.
Will you/have you let anyone in on your VSG/bypass/lapband procedure news? I'm still mulling it over, and I'll just do what feels right when it happens.
I am mostly open about it. People are going to talk about you either way & I would rather them know the truth then think Im on drugs or something and start gossiping. Lol.
ReplyDeleteI find that they more open you are about something, the less people will start rumors or gossip.... And I think MOST people will know anyway with losing so much in such a short amount of time.
At first, I wanted to keep it a secret but after much thought and reading convos on VST, I changed my mind...
I know what you mean, Janel. When I first started this wild ride, I was 100% sure I was going to keep it to myself. Now that I've had a bit of success telling my mom and my sister, it doesn't seem so scary to let my guard down a little.
DeleteI'm not sure about talking about it with those I work with--I have a few close friends there who already know, but I'm not sure I want it to be something I have to talk about at every lunchtime with curious people who wanna know why I'm "eating that" or how much progress I've made (or not made, LOL).
Jury's still out, I'll probably figure it out as I go along!